Sharing Is Caring — But Not for Toddlers!

If your toddler grabs a toy and shouts “Mine!”, you’re not alone. Many parents worry when their child won’t share — but this is a normal part of development.

Why Toddlers Say “Mine”

At this stage, toddlers are learning that objects can belong to people. This helps them build self-identity: me versus not me. Their toys and belongings are part of this discovery, which is why they guard them so strongly.

Sharing Is Learned, Not Instinctive

Sharing requires patience, reasoning, and empathy — skills toddlers don’t fully have yet. True sharing usually develops closer to ages 3.5 – 4. Expecting a 2-year-old to hand over toys on command is unrealistic.

Why Sharing Feels Hard

Toddlers are still grasping object permanence. When a toy leaves their hands, it can feel like it’s gone forever. This makes sharing feel like losing something important.

How to Support Toddlers Learning to Share

• Use Stories: Point out how book or show characters feel. It builds empathy.
• Practice Turn-Taking: Teach them to say “all done” before passing a toy.
• Allow Parallel Play: At age two, playing side-by-side is normal. True sharing comes later.
• Offer Choices: Try, “Do you want to share now or in two minutes?” instead of commands.
• Protect Special Toys: Put away hard-to-share items before playdates.

The Takeaway

Not wanting to share is normal toddler behavior, not a sign of selfishness or bad parenting. With time and gentle guidance, the skill develops naturally.

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